Toilet training or potty training is something you see come up on
facebook and twitter time and time again. Its like its a magic art, and
no one knows quite how its going to work out for them and so they keep asking questions until they
come out on the other side.
Apparently there are books you can buy on the topic, strangely by people
who haven't had kids. And the general consensus is that you wait until
some magic time, usually after their 3rd birthday, cancel all plans for the week
and just take their nappies off. If they have too many accidents (an
unquantified amount), you go back to what you were doing before and try
again in another month or two.
I'm writing this post because I would like parents to know there is
another way, in fact I suspect there are many different approaches, this is ours.
Through out the whole process, we let Little Owl guide us, and show us
when she was ready for the next stage.
I have been told that my Grandma used to sit me on a potty on her lap
and read stories to me from a very young age. And a friend's mum told
me that (in her opinion) if you waited until a child could walk, you had
left it too late!
Armed with this information, I introduced Little Owl to the potty at
around 6 months. Nothing major, I would just sit her on it when I did a
nappy change, while I was tidying stuff away before putting the clean
nappy on. Not every time, just when I was at home and had time. And more often then
not, something would happen.
Little Owl is lucky enough to have a sink in her bedroom, and for a long
long time that is where we used to bath her. So I used to sit her on
the potty next to the sink while I brushed her teeth and filled the
sink. Regularly we would have a potty to empty and so this became part
of our night time 'routine' before putting her pjs on. As we used
cloth nappies, it really did make a difference to us!
This had become a habit by the time Little Owl turned one. Shortly
afterwards we spent the evening at my brothers house. His children are
older and were past the potty stage but did have a toilet seat. With
nothing to loose we put Little Owl on the toilet and, well she did what
she needed to do!
Brilliant! We could cut out the middle man and pop Little Owl straight
on the toilet! We rushed out and bought a toilet seat the very next day!
And that was it. Little Owl was pretty much clean from that day, it
helped that she had just learnt the sign for nappy and could tell us if
she wanted to 'go' at another time. We would have the odd 'accident' in
her nappy, about once a month and this was usually linked in with
teething.
The last accident happened when we were in India. We were out shopping
one evening, buying saris, and Little Owl became very distressed on my
back. I got her down from the sling and she was all hot and sweaty and
obviously upset but I couldn't work out what was wrong. It wasn't until
we got home that night, after dinner, that I realised what had happened.
The poor little thing had been too embarrassed to tell me she had a full nappy. She hasn't had an
accident since.
Little Owl showed signs of being dry last summer too, but as a bum
shuffler, I wasn't prepared to let her go nappy free - can you imagine
the carpet burn?!!!
But I did invest in some TotsBots training pants. I've read many
comments on Facebook saying that training pants are not worth it and you
should go straight to pants, and I agree for disposables as they are
just as absorbent as normal disposables and so the only difference for
the child is that you can pull them up. However with cloth training
pants they are much smaller than a nappy and only just hold one wee,
meaning the child knows if they've gone and the parent does too. I
would use them at home if I was having a lazy day and could do regular
potty stops. I took them
camping last summer, and I took them to India
to save me using too many disposables. While in India, I noticed that, more often than
not, they were dry, and Little Owl was using the toilet.
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So at half term, aged 21 months, we stopped using nappies at home during
the day. The potty has become very useful as Little Owl doesn't like to
stop the activity she is doing to visit the toilet. With only one or
two accidents over the following 6 weeks, and reports from Little Owl's
Grandparents that her nappies were always dry, I decided the Easter
Holidays was the time to venture out without nappies.
It did mean that I needed a slightly bigger bag again as I now
needed to take a toilet seat (I have a foldable one), spare pants and a
pair of leggings with me - its not a lot really and it does fit in my
handbag!
That was a month ago, we've only had one accident while not at home which I think it pretty good going. Already Little Owl is happy to use a public toilet without a toilet seat, so my bag has got smaller again! She even did her first alfresco wee this week as we were on the beach and a mile from the nearest loo!
The whole process has felt very natural for us. It hasn't
been stressful. Little Owl hasn't had to 'learn' what to do, as she has
always stayed one (or more) steps ahead of me. She's still wearing nappies at night and currently there isn't sign of that stopping anytime soon, but I'm so glad that she is sleeping, that I don't want to risk that anyhow!
